Navigating child custody, support and division of assets are things I know well. Over the years countless friends and clients have said to me, “If I only knew then what I know now…” long after their divorce was final, and they have gone on to relate how the wisdom of their experience could have saved them heartache, aggravation and money.
Why does it take having gone through the divorce experience to know that things could have been handled better?
I truly believe that today, divorcing couples (or unmarried parents in custody disputes) are generally capable of working out many of their issues on their own. Many are trying direct communication. Whether it is by virtue of mediation, collaborative practice, counseling or some combination of legal guidance. They are doing their best trying to navigate an admittedly archaic and complicated system. An evolution is taking place which I call the evolution of dissolution.
In 2013, I wrote a book called, “It Doesn’t Have To Be That Way – How to Divorce Without Destroying Your Family or Bankrupting Yourself”. The book gives some helpful hints on modern dissolution taking into account the hurdles faced by couples who want to separate their households and finances in a civil and cost-effective way.
My next move was the creation of the online divorce service It’s Over Easy, which provides couples with an affordable, modern way to dissolve their marriages while becoming educated in the process.
When I first started working as a divorce lawyer I came to work at my dad’s firm. He knew what he was doing; not only had he and my mom had the most respectful divorce ever, they resolved their financial issues, and worked effectively as co-parents to my brother and me. Our firm has always promoted settlement-oriented resolution no matter the circumstances. We believe agreements made between couples are much better than letting a judge, who doesn’t know you or your children, make decisions about big ticket life issues.
Most of our clients are wealthy and/or famous, the number of zeros on their bank account balances may be different but the fear, anger and sadness are the same. In some ways, divorce is the great equalizer. Unless you have been through it, you know little or nothing about the laws or the process which can be frustrating and terrifying.
Attorney Laura A. Wasser is an author, entrepreneur, and Family Law expert. She is the senior partner at Wasser Cooperman Mandles, LLP and the host of the podcast Divorce Sucks! with Laura Wasser. She is also the founder & CEO of the online divorce platform, It’s Over Easy. Laura has made it her mission to remove the stigma associated with divorce and to disrupt the conversation by changing the way we look at relationships in the twenty first century.